Figuring it out

Yesterday, I left work early so I could have a good visit with her. When I got there, she was on the toilet with a CNA waiting outside. After twenty minutes, she was still on the toilet so I gave up.

I'm having a hard time knowing what to do when I visit Alda. Many times she can't talk. Often she can't hear what we say - so conversation isn't satisfying for either of us.

After visiting assisted living, this is such a disappointment. When we went to Pioneer Valley together, meals were lively visits with friends. Here, meals are dull visits where the only conversation is about food and what has been spilled. In assisted living, there were lots of activities. Here, the main activity seems to be sleeping. In assisted living, the patrons were immaculate in their personal hygiene. Here, I see hairdos uniquely styled by sitting in a high backed chair all day. At least they are now using a bib with Alda, so she isn't wearing her food all day - but the fact that I had to ask them to use a bib is concerning.